Dating After Marriage

 

Hello, and welcome back to my blog. As I have said before what I write is my opinion and if you do not agree with that, that is ok. I don’t ever want to offend someone with what I say. I want to talk again today about dating. Last week I talked about how dating has changed and how more people feel like they owe others a commitment after only a few dates. This week I would like to talk about the effects that dating can have on your marriage. My profess, said something that has stuck with me this week. He said you should never stop dating (your spouse) even after you are married. I think it is important to keep dating your spouse because it shows that you still care. When you are just dating someone before marriage, you typically aren’t living with them, so anything you do for that person is special because you are going out of your way to show them you love and care for them. I think once you get married it is easy to stop doing the little things. I think when you are married you can get to comfortable with your spouse and the small special things you once did may start to fade. I think this is especially true once the couple has children. Once children are brought into the situation it is easy to focus on the child’s needs over the spouses. My parents always found time for each other. When we were younger, my parents would take a weekend trip once a year and then they would also find time every few months for a date night. There didn’t have a lot of money so they did what they could with what they had. I know other families who parents would go out every weekend for a date night and if that is something you can afford then that’s great. Even though my parents didn’t have a lot of money they would still do other things for each other. I remember times when my dad would get home from work early and he would clean their room, or clean the living room, or start dinner so that my mom would not have to when she would get home. There were times when my dad had to work on the weekends and my mom would do yard work so he wouldn’t have to worry about it when he got home. Doing things like this were simple, but it showed each other that they were thinking about the other. This showed that they still cared and loved each other. I believe that in any relationship is important to continue to let that relationship grow no matter what stage you are in. Another thing that is important about dating your spouse after you are married is because you continue to grow as a person and are always changing. If you got married when you were 23 and now you are in your 50s, I think its safe to say, you are not the same person as you were when you were 23. By dating your spouse, you can continue to get to know them and what their interests and goals are. This is also true for the different stages you are in, in life. I think if you are a young couple with young children, then your main focus is going to be on your children, but if you are an older couple and maybe don’t have any children at home your priorities are going to look a little different. I don’t believe that just because you are married, you shouldn’t try to continue to keep the love alive.