Dating

 

Hello, and welcome back to my blog. As always, I would like to remind everyone that what I write is just my opinion and if you don’t agree that’s just fine. Today I want to talk about dating. I think dating has changed a lot in the last thirty years. My parents have been married for thirty-one years. They met when my dad was 18 years old and he got a job working for my grandpa. My mom met him that way and then they started dating and the rest was history. My oldest sister met her husband in 2007 when they were in high school and have been dating ever since. My other sister met her boyfriend in 2013 on a blind date, that was set up by mutual friends. These are “normal” ways of meeting someone, but I have a lot of friends who met boyfriends/girlfriends on a dating website. This is what our society has considered to be the new “normal”. The thing I really do not like about dating websites is that you are deciding on if you want to go on a date with someone depending on their looks and not based on anything else. I also think that dating habits have changed over the time too. I think people are going out on less dates and more “hang outs”. This does not let the couple have time to spend alone and get to know each other. I have also noticed that in a group date it can hard sometimes to tell who is supposed to be with who. I think sometimes people prefer a group date over a one on one date so that there is not as much pressure of the couple. I have been on my fair share of group dates and I think they are fine for a first date as long as you are able to get time to talk and get to know each other a little more. I do not think every date should be a group date. I think it is important for any new couple to have alone time together. I have noticed with my friends that when they go on one date with someone, they try to make a judgment right then on if they are interested enough in that person to go on another date with. I personally don’t think you can tell that based off one date. I have a lot of guy friends that do this, and I always suggest that they go on another date with that person to see if there was a connection with them or not. They never agree to this because they feel like it becomes more serious if they go on another date with them. They feel like they are making a commitment to that person without actually making any commitment at all. I think this is a problem within the dating world. People are less likely to go on dates with people because they don’t want to tie themselves down to one person. I also think that some people believe that they can’t go one multiple dates with different people. I have a friend that went on a date with one girl and it went great and then went on a date with someone new and that date went well too. He was torn because he didn’t know, after one date with each girl, what girl he should put more effort into. I told him to go on another date with both of them so that he is better able to get to know both of them better and once things progress then he can decide what he wants to do. I think dating has changed in a lot of way and some for the better, but I think most for the worst. I’m interested to see how dating continues to change as time goes on.

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