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How to be a better parent.

  Our children respond to our emotions. When we are happy, mad, stressed, or sad they call feel that. They are extremely reactive to the world around them. This is their way of socially interacting with others. Because of this we need to make sure that we are showing them how to do so. There is a great example of this of this by Dr. Edward Tornick. I have attached a link to the video below.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTTSXc6sARg&t=1s Something else we strive to do with our children is emotion coaching. Emotion coaching is helping children understand the different emotions they are feeling and help them understand why they occur and how to properly handle them. Emotion coaching can be as simple as comforting them, listening to them, and understanding their thoughts and feelings and helping them understand themselves. Teaching young children about their emotions can help them grow into emotionally strong adults. We aren’t telling them they can’t be mad when someone ta...

They are blending

  Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. Today I want to talk about something that I have seen a lot of lately. I wanted to talk about blended families. I know a lot of people who parents have had a divorce and remarried someone with children. I think sometimes these situations can work out great and sometimes things end up like Cinderella. I first want to talk about divorce. I think in some situations divorce is the best choice. I think sometimes divorce is what is best for the parents and the children. I want to talk about two cousins I have, who have both had a divorce and blended families. I am going to change their names for the sake of privacy. One of the cousins is Kennadee and her ex-husband Brad. Together they have four children. They had a pretty bad divorce and shortly after Brad remarried to a woman who had three children of her own. Kennadee started dating a man name Jared. Kennadee and Brad had a terrible relationship, and the children would often come in between...

Parenting

  Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. I wanted to talk about parenting today. I wanted to talk about the different type of parenting styles and some dos and don’ts of parenting. There are three main types of parenting styles. They are authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Authoritarian means that the parent knows best, and obedience is demanded. These are the type of parents that what they say go and there is no budging. A permissive parent is one that provides few behavioral guidelines because parents don’t want to upset their children. These parents are more like a friend to the children rather then a parent. A permissive parent does not enforce rules on their children. An authoritative parent is a blend of caring tone with structure and consistent limit setting. These types of parents have a health balance between authoritarian and permissive. They are firm on their rules but are also loving and kind to their children. An Authoritative parent has the respect need...

What a woman wants

  Hello and welcome back to my blog. I want to talk about something today that some people may agree with by others might not and either way is fine. These are my opinions and I never expect everyone to believe what I do. I want to talk about the roles of mothers. I know some people believe that a mother should stay at home with the children and her main role is to be a homemaker. I know many young women who this is a goal for them. They want nothing more then to be a wife and a stay at home mother. However, I know a lot of young women who have the motivation to go to school and to have a career and still be a mother. I also know a lot of young women who don’t want children at all. I think each three of these are perfectly acceptable. I think every woman should have the opportunity to choose that for herself. I personally would love to be a wife and a mother and still have a career. This past summer I was home from collage due to COVID-19. My aunt and her husband are considered ess...

Communication

  Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. I wanted to talk about something I think is important in every relationship, communication. I would like to really focus on communication in romantic relationships. I think communication is key to any successful relationship. In a relationship, communication allows you to explain to someone else what you are experiencing and what your needs are. The act of communicating not only helps to meet your needs, but it also helps you to be more connected in your relationships. Communication allows you to express your emotions to you partner. I was in a situation where someone close to me expected me to do something I was not comfortable doing and I did not know he even wanted me to do this. I need to collect my thoughts and emotions about the subject, but I was honest with him and communicated what I was feeling with him. Because of this we were able to have an honest, open conversation about the topic and we came to a conclusion. Had I not spo...

Family Stress

  Hello, welcome back to my blog. Today I would like to talk about stress within families. Family stress is defined as a disturbance in the steady state of the family system. The disturbance can emerge from the outside or inside the family. Family stress can come from being under a lot of pressure, facing big changed, worrying about a problem, not having any or much control over the outcome of a situation, having responsibilities that you’re finding overwhelming, not having enough work, activities, or change in your like, financial hardships, death, divorce, and work. Many families are affected by multiple stressors at any given time. My personal family has been faced with many of these. My family has experienced the death of love one’s multiple times throughout my life. I have had all my great grandparents die in my lifetime, and many cousins. These stressors can cause a lot of chaos on a family unit. I remember when one of my cousins died when I was nine years old. This cousin wa...

Lets talk about sex

  Hello everyone. Welcome back to my blog. I wanted to state that what I talk about is my opinion and I never expect someone to agree with me. I wanted to talk about something that didn’t sit right with me this week. I was in my class for family relations and my teacher was talking about couples having sex and the bonding that is causes, however he did not call it sex, he called it love making. He referred to it as love making every time. I personally think it is so important to call sex, sex and not give it a different name. As a child development major, I think about how it is so important that we teach children the correct terminology for their body parts. Also, as a member of the church of Jesus Christ of the latter-day saints I think it is important to call sex what it is. In my religion it is common for couples to not have sex until after marriage. Because of this sex is a taboo topic that no one wants to talk about. In my religion they do talk about the importance of sex and...