Family relations

  Our children respond to our emotions. When we are happy, mad, stressed, or sad they call feel that. They are extremely reactive to the world around them. This is their way of socially interacting with others. Because of this we need to make sure that we are showing them how to do so. There is a great example of this of this by Dr. Edward Tornick. I have attached a link to the video below.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTTSXc6sARg&t=1s Something else we strive to do with our children is emotion coaching. Emotion coaching is helping children understand the different emotions they are feeling and help them understand why they occur and how to properly handle them. Emotion coaching can be as simple as comforting them, listening to them, and understanding their thoughts and feelings and helping them understand themselves. Teaching young children about their emotions can help them grow into emotionally strong adults. We aren’t telling them they can’t be mad when someone ta...

  Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. Today I want to talk about something that I have seen a lot of lately. I wanted to talk about blended families. I know a lot of people who parents have had a divorce and remarried someone with children. I think sometimes these situations can work out great and sometimes things end up like Cinderella. I first want to talk about divorce. I think in some situations divorce is the best choice. I think sometimes divorce is what is best for the parents and the children. I want to talk about two cousins I have, who have both had a divorce and blended families. I am going to change their names for the sake of privacy. One of the cousins is Kennadee and her ex-husband Brad. Together they have four children. They had a pretty bad divorce and shortly after Brad remarried to a woman who had three children of her own. Kennadee started dating a man name Jared. Kennadee and Brad had a terrible relationship, and the children would often come in between...

  Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. I wanted to talk about parenting today. I wanted to talk about the different type of parenting styles and some dos and don’ts of parenting. There are three main types of parenting styles. They are authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Authoritarian means that the parent knows best, and obedience is demanded. These are the type of parents that what they say go and there is no budging. A permissive parent is one that provides few behavioral guidelines because parents don’t want to upset their children. These parents are more like a friend to the children rather then a parent. A permissive parent does not enforce rules on their children. An authoritative parent is a blend of caring tone with structure and consistent limit setting. These types of parents have a health balance between authoritarian and permissive. They are firm on their rules but are also loving and kind to their children. An Authoritative parent has the respect need...

  Hello and welcome back to my blog. I want to talk about something today that some people may agree with by others might not and either way is fine. These are my opinions and I never expect everyone to believe what I do. I want to talk about the roles of mothers. I know some people believe that a mother should stay at home with the children and her main role is to be a homemaker. I know many young women who this is a goal for them. They want nothing more then to be a wife and a stay at home mother. However, I know a lot of young women who have the motivation to go to school and to have a career and still be a mother. I also know a lot of young women who don’t want children at all. I think each three of these are perfectly acceptable. I think every woman should have the opportunity to choose that for herself. I personally would love to be a wife and a mother and still have a career. This past summer I was home from collage due to COVID-19. My aunt and her husband are considered ess...

  Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. I wanted to talk about something I think is important in every relationship, communication. I would like to really focus on communication in romantic relationships. I think communication is key to any successful relationship. In a relationship, communication allows you to explain to someone else what you are experiencing and what your needs are. The act of communicating not only helps to meet your needs, but it also helps you to be more connected in your relationships. Communication allows you to express your emotions to you partner. I was in a situation where someone close to me expected me to do something I was not comfortable doing and I did not know he even wanted me to do this. I need to collect my thoughts and emotions about the subject, but I was honest with him and communicated what I was feeling with him. Because of this we were able to have an honest, open conversation about the topic and we came to a conclusion. Had I not spo...

  Hello, welcome back to my blog. Today I would like to talk about stress within families. Family stress is defined as a disturbance in the steady state of the family system. The disturbance can emerge from the outside or inside the family. Family stress can come from being under a lot of pressure, facing big changed, worrying about a problem, not having any or much control over the outcome of a situation, having responsibilities that you’re finding overwhelming, not having enough work, activities, or change in your like, financial hardships, death, divorce, and work. Many families are affected by multiple stressors at any given time. My personal family has been faced with many of these. My family has experienced the death of love one’s multiple times throughout my life. I have had all my great grandparents die in my lifetime, and many cousins. These stressors can cause a lot of chaos on a family unit. I remember when one of my cousins died when I was nine years old. This cousin wa...

  Hello everyone. Welcome back to my blog. I wanted to state that what I talk about is my opinion and I never expect someone to agree with me. I wanted to talk about something that didn’t sit right with me this week. I was in my class for family relations and my teacher was talking about couples having sex and the bonding that is causes, however he did not call it sex, he called it love making. He referred to it as love making every time. I personally think it is so important to call sex, sex and not give it a different name. As a child development major, I think about how it is so important that we teach children the correct terminology for their body parts. Also, as a member of the church of Jesus Christ of the latter-day saints I think it is important to call sex what it is. In my religion it is common for couples to not have sex until after marriage. Because of this sex is a taboo topic that no one wants to talk about. In my religion they do talk about the importance of sex and...

  Hello, and welcome back to my blog. As I have said before what I write is my opinion and if you do not agree with that, that is ok. I don’t ever want to offend someone with what I say. I want to talk again today about dating. Last week I talked about how dating has changed and how more people feel like they owe others a commitment after only a few dates. This week I would like to talk about the effects that dating can have on your marriage. My profess, said something that has stuck with me this week. He said you should never stop dating (your spouse) even after you are married. I think it is important to keep dating your spouse because it shows that you still care. When you are just dating someone before marriage, you typically aren’t living with them, so anything you do for that person is special because you are going out of your way to show them you love and care for them. I think once you get married it is easy to stop doing the little things. I think when you are married you ...

  Hello, and welcome back to my blog. As always, I would like to remind everyone that what I write is just my opinion and if you don’t agree that’s just fine. Today I want to talk about dating. I think dating has changed a lot in the last thirty years. My parents have been married for thirty-one years. They met when my dad was 18 years old and he got a job working for my grandpa. My mom met him that way and then they started dating and the rest was history. My oldest sister met her husband in 2007 when they were in high school and have been dating ever since. My other sister met her boyfriend in 2013 on a blind date, that was set up by mutual friends. These are “normal” ways of meeting someone, but I have a lot of friends who met boyfriends/girlfriends on a dating website. This is what our society has considered to be the new “normal”. The thing I really do not like about dating websites is that you are deciding on if you want to go on a date with someone depending on their looks a...

  Hello everyone! Welcome back to my blog. Like I have said before what I write about is my opinions and I do not expect everyone to agree with me and that ok. Today I want to talk about something that might be a little hard for people to hear but it is just a topic that has been discussed a lot and I would like to give my two cents too. I want to talk about if being apart of the LGBTQ+ community is a choice or not. I grew up and was attracted to men and no one told me I had to like men or women, that is just what happened. I did not have a choice. I have always been attracted to men. I can’t help but think that is the same for people who are apart of the LGBTQ+ community. I was interested and decided to talk to one of my close friends who is lesbian. I asked her to share her story with me. She explained to me that from a young age she knew she was attracted to women. She said it was hard to come to terms with that, because she felt like she was doing something wrong. She grew up i...

  Hello! Welcome back to my blog. As I have mentioned before what I write is my opinion and my intentions are never to offend anyone. If you don’t agree with me that is ok. Today I want to talk about affection within the family. I came from an extended family where if you didn’t say hi and give everyone a kiss on the cheek you were disrespectful. If you forgot to say hi to a family member there was going to be drama. My immediate family gives hugs when we haven’t seen each other in a while, and kisses on the cheek when we leave. When we were younger my mom would come into our rooms and night and give us kisses. This was just normal to us and we didn’t know any different. I didn’t know that in different families this was not as common, and this made me wonder if this had any effect on the children in the families that don’t show as much affection and emotion to each other. According to one study families who showed more affections made their children more sensitive and more in tune ...

  Hello, welcome to my blog. Like I have said before I am sorry if I offend anyone. That is never my intentions. I would also like to remind people that what I write is my opinion and I do not intend for everyone to agree with me. Today I would like to talk about gender roles in families. This is a topic that I think is changing every day.   In the 1950s family you would have a mother, a father, and children. The mother/wife would stay home all day and cook and clean. She would be responsible for taking care of the children’s needs and make sure that by the time her husband arrived home that dinner was ready to go. She was supposed to make sure that her families image stayed positive in the eyes of her community. A woman was supposed to be a caring, hardworking homemaker and obedient wives. They were supposed to depend on their husband to make the money to support their family. The father/husband role was to be the head of the house/sole provider for his family. He was expecte...

    Hello! Welcome to my first blog. In some of my blogs I may discuss topics that may be a little hard for some of you to hear about, so I want to apologize in advance. I would like to express my respect for everyone, and this is just my opinion. I do not expect everyone to agree with me and if you don’t agree that’s ok. This week something, we discussed was children of parents in a same sex marriage. This topic hits home for me. I have family members in same sex relationships, and they have children, and I have heard from a lot of people that if a same sex couple has a child, that child will also become gay/lesbian. Multiple studies have shown that this fact is not true. In fact, there has not been any evidence to back this up. Although, the research that was done was not an accurate representation of the children who are in a same sex household. The research was only done on white families in the upper middle class. The researchers also only spoke to the parents, they never...

My name is Becca Meagher and I am a student at Brigham Young University in Rexburg, Idaho. I am a child development major. My end career goal would be to become an occupational therapist. I am currently taking a class called family relations. In this class we cover different topics regarding the family and problems that families face today. Once a week I will be writing about what we learn and my thoughts on the problems. Stay tune for more!